Born Queer , Raised Queer, or ?

 There has always been this debate whether people were born queer or raised queer. Now I will say that this is not to offend anyone who is trying to work through traumas that are related to being queer. This is only to assist, heal and create open dialogue about what your twitter advocates seem to ignore. In the queer community, one of the questions that is always posed is "Were they born like this or were they touched?" I believe this to be a very open and honest question. People may think otherwise. However, I pose this question too. It means a lot to me when someone asks, because they can truly understand the person and their persona. The way that people ask may be the problem or the timing may also be the problem. Neither here nor there, For those who are queer and have had individual who have raised you into queer hood, there needs to be an understanding of how you became queer. Some people seem to judge the parents. It difficult for two opposite sex parents to accept their queer child and face the hardships, but its more stressful for two same sex couples to be judged. People perceive that just because a same sex couple created or adopted a child, it warrants that child to being homosexual. Whoever created this stigma is very wrong. Yes, kids do tend to mimic and recreate what is being shown around them. However, not every child is the same and not every child will follow behind their parents. Also, it is the parents job to teach their kids to be exactly who they were designed and destined to be. No one has the power to control anyone's life but god, and that should be the only person to try and do so. Some of us Queer folk, were born queer! I have heard stories that people in our community growing up with heels and a purse. Some adolescents develop a love for hair , nails or sports and boxers. This is a normal and common thing. This is actually very positive. Yes there will still be backlash for how the child is acting in a room of other kids. Some parents may think the child may influence the others. Children are FUCKING children. Adults forget that all the time. They tend to think that kids are sexual beings however they are not. They are literally running through life not even thinking about figuring it out. They are only thinking about dinner after a long day. Unfortunately, there are some kids who have had situations where they had the choice of sexuality taken away from them. Some kids have that choice taken due to other adults taking sexual advantage of them. This not only messes up the child future but create a horrible cycle of mental health. Some kids allow themselves to fall into the queer world while feeling incomplete. This is a horrible way to continue life's journey. For those who have experienced sexual or any type of abuse, please seek help as early as possible. I know it may be scary and I know you may be fearful of the outcome but the only way to come out of this is to show your vulnerability and be as real with yourself as possible so that you may heal. To all my queer and black readers, There are a lot of us and there are a lot of different stories of how we got here. What is your queer story and how do you plan to help the other queer individuals?

xxoxoxo