A Queer Heart Waiting for Love: Part 2

Imagine being at a party. You were invited by your fellow associates. Out of all the fun they are having, all you can think about is seeking a man in a crowd full of opportunities. Being a queer  guy at the party always trying to find my party favor is very unhealthy. The unhealthy practice of seeking love can become habitual. Instead of enjoying  time & living in the moment, one may find themselves stuck measuring dicks through pants or sizing someone’s ego based off their outer apperance. Some use empathy to persuade themselves of finding one person in a room who would be quote on quote, The one. Truthfully, If I could give a piece of advice to anyone, it would be to build a Plan and stay home. Don‘t have sex or seek love from people who never loved you in the beginning. The habitual actions stem from trapped trauma. This trauma could possibly stem from earlier identity.  However, in your present age, don‘t Blame anyone anymore because you want to forgive yourself. You want to forgive and love yourself regardless of previous hardships. You want to forgive, love and heal properly. Now don’t get me wrong, purging bad habits and spirits is a journey. I’d be lying if I say I didn’t still mentally participate in the game i built. However, acknowledge when one mentions a man when im out with friends, or start to think about seeking instead of living. The best method of healing is to be more present. Enjoy my girl friends who enjoy you.Some people miss these amazing opportunities of growth and fun.  What are some bad dating and love habits that you participate in? What is one of the ways you purge these habits so that you can have a clean slate for love? Is Love different for you now than it was a few years ago?


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