Queer and Bottoming …

Tops expect a bottom to just have his hole cleaned and prepared. Tops don‘t understand the concern and safety we have to go through to protect them from a horrible run in. I fear we as a queer bottom community have made monsters. It’s time to show resistence! LMAO, you may be confused for those who are not queer or a male. So, to further assist with your confusion, the top does the thrusting and the bottom “does the bending.” - For Colored Girls

But the issue thats being observed is the ill concern for those doing the bending. Bottoms should be catered to Especially if you want sexual advances. Also, by bottoms providing their personal well kept body to provide a pleasurable experience, this should strike tops to provide undeniable support. Even if it’s just a quick sexual encounter, this should be the standard! There shouldn’t have to be a class on how our queer tops should make there sexual advances but there should be a class on common courtesy. Just know that it takes 30-2 hrs to clear our system for you. It takes an entire day or 2 to make sure we adjust specifites in our diet. Hygiene for us is very important as we do not want to project bad hygiene. While yall are putting on your basketball shorts, slides and plain tee think with your actual head and not your dick head. I know it’s hard but bottoms in our community need the appreciation. Bottoms need to be celebrated in those intimate moments. My queer and black readers, were you surprised to hear this information? How do you feel about those who are the “TOP” in your relationships (friendships , FWB or sexual)? Have you notice a lack of empathy for bottoms? If you feel otherwise, please comment! Id love to hear what you have to say.





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