Queer and facing agism

 We are all aging and wish we could hit the hot tub time machine. It's just like the movie except not as exciting. One day your in the club and you start to realize that the person you used to be isn't you anymore. This means that you have reached the highest point of maturity at the age you are. The person that you are becoming is seeing that things are different and changing. For example, You are at the club again, and your in the mist of a crowd who is literally 5-6 years younger than you. They start to speak on how they are born in the year 2004 and the older girls are from the 90's. "Your friends get this sense of being old, but you don't feel a thing. Once you start to see the demographic of people you are surrounded by you have no other choice but to accept the facts. You are older and you are seasoned but you are not old. Old to me is when one gives up on trying to learn new skills and etc. When one gives up the willingness to learn, they give up the passion for life. The reason why I say that is because everything in life changes regardless of age. As humans its our duty to continue growth so that we can function in society that's forever evolving. The hardest acceptance is that everything is subject to change and that's the inevitable. The ones who are calling others "old and tired" are also uncomfortable with age. As we know people project their feelings on others. As I perceive ageists, I perceive them as people who have fear about getting old. This is partially because those who are younger, don't have guidance. They need someone who is cool to help and cover them in this important part if their life. I do believe that they fear getting old due to the lack of knowledge that has yet to be bestowed amongst them. IF we, as a community would share the positives of getting old, the ones who are younger would not have any type of animosity or misunderstanding from those who are older. Ageism also is a fear among individual people. I too fear being that ugly old weird gay uncle. You know the one who lives in 1982 with his jerry curl slick back and track suites. That's so scary. I know others experience this fear as well. I have seen people settle and become comfortable with reminding themselves of there age and not trying new things that could make them feel m ore youthful. People fail to realize that the fountain of youth is not in the physical realm. No face cream or cows blood can save you from a. wrinkle. Filler and Plastic dissolve and have an expiration date. Anything that has a warranty or states man made must be retouched over the years. Anyways, all I'm trying to say is that the younger and older generations need to stop ageism. It's getting out of hand. We, the older generation... or seasoned, need to take more accountability and teach the younger generation to not fear age but to accept it with open arms. To all my queer and black readers, Does age put fear in you? Have you ever had someone talk about what age you were? Does age matter in your relationships (friendships, Spouses, etc.)?