Queer and The fear of commitment

 You have your Hitchhiker and your Mclovers. I know you are reading my first statement like, "whaaa." Well I am here to tell you that the fear of commitment is real and There are different forms. Today, I am sharing the different forms of commitment and how they play a role in why some people can never have a successful relationship. Having the fear of commitment, not only affects the way you help others or a job but it also affects your relationships around you. The fear of commitment can affect platonic relationships and monogamist relationships. You ever saw someone standing on the side of the rode and all they needed was a ride from point A to point B? The hitchhiker has the fear of commitment too.A hitchhiker tend to have a more free spirit and Lack of attachments. In a relationship a Hitchhiker lacks the will and want to be  in a relationship. They only care about having a free ride. If you have a house and home, they are going to your new couch potato or free loader. To avoid a hitchhiker, stop looking for love. Stop searching for people to pick up when they are down. Look at the red flags before you make any moves and cause a disruption to your own life. You also have Mclovers. The Mclovers only want drive by love. They are not there for the long run. You ever went through the drive through at McDonald's and had the worst customer service. They are rushing you through the line. Once you get to the window, they don't greet you. They take your card and aggressively ask you to move through the line. Once you're at the last window, They hand you your food. They have most likely forgotten you're straw, sauce, or something that was going to add or be used to devour your meal. Mclovers are the same way. You are in line with them and they emotionally dump on you. Rushing you through the relationship process with their own selfish problems. They love bomb you by providing so much support without even knowing you. This is such a horrible start and thats just the beginning of the red flags. They then want to have your full attention and have sex with you on their time because it works for them. Once the Mclover gets what they needs, they continue to ask for more, leaving you hanging. Mclovers want a drive through love that has horrible service, support and communication. If anything, its better to commit to the "Chick-fil-a lover". The Chick-fil-a lover prides themself of love. They take their time to communicate and assist you in all your endeavors. They don't mess up and they make sure to serve you with kindness and assurance. Nobody wants a hitchhiker, but you would love to have a travel agent. The travel agent is also like the chick-fil-a lover. The travel agent is strategic about how they display their love. They are very methodical in what they present to their partners. Its easy to believe that someone is there for you. It's easier to not question or think about the pros and cons of the relationship. However, take the hard route and figure out if you are dating a hitchhiker or a travel agent. Take some time to think about how you are being serviced. Analyze your relationship and see if you have a "chick-fil-a lover" or a "Mclover". To all my queer and black readers, What type of relationship do you have? Is your partner any of these defining analogies? What are you doing to attract these people?

xoxo