Queer and Feminine/masculine Energy

 The aspects of having a dominant masculine man have been misconstrued as an abusive man. There is a sad underlining stance with being abused and it equalling out to man loving you and that's not the reality. A man will always have the masculinity and dominance varies amongst the person. For women or men to judge their same sex partner based off if they are to feminine or to masculine is very unrealistic. Idealy you want to be able to have someone who is full of duality. What I mean by duality is that that is an equal split between the masculine and feminine energy. Everyone on earth has this within them, it just has be unlocked or used in ways that aren't accounted for. To have a feminine man or a man that understands the feminine aspect is a plus. As we all know for centuries they have been telling men that they are suppose to be this overly dominant personality. They want us to believe that men are only suppose to be providers and not supporters. They think they don't have an emotional bone in their body. This is why some men have issues with expressing themselves and being vulnerable. Having a man that is willing to show you that sensitive side is the man that is ideal. A man who knows that his spouse is his safe space to cry and express himself emotionally. For those who date women, women are not only just nurtures. Sometimes they want to be able to make dominant decisions on things that they are very conscious and sure of. Also, women who date other women I find that they don't want to be measured on how feminine or how masculine they are. A lot of the time we are passing judgement on others but have you really asked how people view you. To all my queer and black readers, How do you want the world to see you? do you think they see you the same way? Are you comfortable with being yourself? I don't think anyone is exactly what they are perceived to be however imagine you crushing on someone. You think that you are the perfect match due to your observation. You were wrong, they are actually into something different. So as humans, as a human marathon, we need to be careful how we judge others because we too are being measured.