Queer and Friends: PART 3

 It's great to have friends to center you and to have fun with, however you ever thought about the queer relationship/ friendship you have with yourself? We go about life thinking that we are suppose to have a support system of the people around us, but the most valuable relationship and support system is yourself. Being in situations as simple as not having someone to go to an event with will literally stop anyone from partaking in a good time. However, Have you ever thought, "What if I go by myself, what will happen." I know I Think about this all the time. I know you think about as well. There is no harm in enjoying a time by yourself. If you are just starting the process please do not start big. What I mean by "BIG" is literally events that have more than 5 people. You have to start small. Taking yourself to restaurants and sitting. Bringing your laptop or a novel to the park. Simply, taking yourself for a musical walk. Blasting your favorite tunes while thinking of the life you live. This will help you elevate your personal self esteem. Doing these small self dates allow you to feel more comfortable doing major things on your own. Also, have you ever found yourself excited to go out and everyone has this weird attitude about actually experiencing life? Don't allow their projections to reflect upon your attitude. Most individuals don't see your vision and it's ok to want more people around who are willing to invite you and be in these large spaces as a support. Going out and enjoying your personal life. Throughout life, I believe that networking is the ultimate way to truly evolve as a person. You meet and greet new people. But always remember not all people are for you. Devise a plan to pick places that are centered around your passion and personality. you don't want to be a minimalist at a grunge area. You may enjoy it but You won't find as many connection as traveling or simply going to book stores or venues that support minimalism. If you are building your friend group again, Thats essential to growth. Please do not expect to keep all the same friends you've had especially if they are not in support of your new journey. Not everyone deserves the new parts that you are growing into. For my Queer and black readers, Do you like the friends you have now? What is a great way to grow new friends, while cutting the others out? How do you see yourself in the next 5 years... and do you see the people around you in 5 years? 

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