Queer and Healing

 There are so many of our queer and black individuals who are suffering from mental health and trauma. Abuse has been prevalent since the beginning of human existence. People have been subjected to hate crimes when they were just living their life. One of the many things that I have concluded about those who are sexualized or over sexualize socially, That they have been subjected to sexual abuse. Being taken advantage of is the worst thing anyone can do. Someone taking your control and making decisions for you. There are a lot of men who struggle with their sexuality because of the ill will of someone else. Some queer and black individuals experience this usually experience as a youth or in their adult hood. No one is safe from abuse and violence. Its so unfortunate that we are in 2024 and still dealing with this sensitive yet heavy topic. It's time to speak up and help the men that were abused and hurt. Women need to understand that they are not the only ones who are taken advantage of. Men are victims. Men have been told over the years not to express or feel emotions because of their role in the house. Due to this stigma, this has become a heavy issue in many households. Because of mens lack of expression, they use other vices such as drug abuse or the abuse of others. When an individual is a victim of abuse and has had his personal rights manipulated with, they assimilate to what the now is. That means they do whatever they can to forget and feel normal. Some guys think that if they are abused at a young age, its a stepping stone to their growth and they confuse it with it being apart of life and something bad happening to them. This goes for those who classify themselves as heterosexual or homosexual. Whatever you are labeled, I personally want you to know that you are not ok. I advise therapy to anyone who has went through a traumatic point in their life where they can recall and remember. I advise anyone to seek help that is suffering with trauma they have filed away in their brains to never revisit. Trauma is a major reason why men tend to act out and abuse themselves or others. Providing men who are queer, heterosexual, or homosexual with a voice and allowing them to show emotions will help save a lot of broken homes. Allowing men to be emotional and expressive will build relationships in the household. This can also educate other men and women inside of the family on trauma, how to deal with trauma and how to use your trauma to help those in need. I do believe that starting a movement like #Menspeaktoo or something where men can bring up the trauma that has been passed down in their families that cause them to act the way they do. There needs to be real conversation to why some men act the way they do. To all my queer and black readers, How do you feel men should be expressing themselves? Should men in the queer and black community, have a voice? What are ways that people in our communities can alleviate the trauma men suffer with on the daily? Is there room for men to have a movement where they can actually be emotional and show their vulnerabilities? 

Xoxo