Queer and Homonormatives

 The television has shown and screened sex scenes for adults since the man found out that a woman was way more valuable on screen with her shirt off. Everyone is accustomed to seeing heterosexual people performing acts of sex, love, relationships and support. For those who are queer, We have been programmed to think that we are suppose to abide by what society defines relationships to be: The heterosexual norm. For those who are confused, heteronormativity is the belief that there are only two opposite genders and that marital relations are most fitting to the opposite sex. As queer, we have not been shown anything that is related to the homosexual experience when it comes to marriage, love, relationship, hell even friendships. As a queer community, we must take a deep dive into what defines us and how do we govern our own relationships. Have we ever considered thinking outside of the box and figuring it out for ourselves. To believe that two men can immulate a heterosexual male and a heterosexual womans' relationship is false advertisement, Or as my favorite president would say.. False news. We are not men or women who seek the opposite sex, so That systematic definition that has been programmed Does not work for us. Have you ever thought that as a queer community, we could actually be the bridge to having equal roles for any relationship? I think its important to not define our role based off gender or sex. We must educate those who are stuck in the early 90's - 2000's that everyone should know exactly what's going on in their homes no matter the gender or sex. Men and Women should just define their relationships based off of simply what people are good at. If your husband or wife is good at trash dishes and laundry than you are obviously good at yard work, house maintenance and etc. Or you could really both be good at everything and willingly exchange duties amongst one another. This a great way to show true responsibility and accountability for both partners. Who wants to be a robot everyday, doing the same things? Who wants to be continuously doing the same things over and over until you snap. What heterosexual couples don't tell you is how tiring it is to keep doing something and never being appreciated for it. You get overlooked. You get mistreated for doing your "job". Wondering how it feels to say your relationship has turned into a "job" is a mystery. Homonormatives should be defined as equality. Equality amongst partners. Equality amongst roles and how one prioritizes their daily duties. Abiding by the heteronormative is very outdated for those who are Gen Z and after. Homonormatives will be the new equality in a relationship. To all my queer and Black readers, how do you feel about heteronormative? Do you abide by the rules that have been socially set in stone? Is your relationship defined by the system that was built off of misunderstanding? Do you feel there needs to be more education for those who lack knowledge about homosexuality and the way it functions in a relationship? 

xoxo