Queer and Lost

 The feeling that you are not getting enough done for yourself. The feeling that you are wasting your time. The feeling that you could be doing something better than sitting in an office for 8 hours and loosing 14 hours of your day. The feeling that you are not fulfilling your dreams. The feeling to stop complaining about your work life. The feeling of letting go what does not serve you mentally, physically or emotionally. These are all signs of being lost at the moment. I don't mean being lost in a forest or lost at the mall, this type of lost is very detrimental. The decisions you make in your life at this point really make a difference in how your life will go. I too am trying to make the right decisions. As a Queer community, we do not have true representations of idols or people we can look for as inspiration. Unfortunately, I have yet to seek and find someone who can actually be a mentor in my life. So, I guess I will take a little bit of the responsibility to help my fellow Queer and Black community. I will be the filler in the space. I will take the crown and you will never have to wonder again. But this makes total sense as to why the queer community seem to be in different directions not on the same page. The queer community is very creative and disciplined when trying to execute an agenda. However, once we've reached a goal, there seems to be a disbandment. We seem to go our separate ways. If we were Danity Kane and the mission was to keep the group together, we would fail lol. Anyways, that probably was a bad analogy. The point is, is that a lot of our Queer youth needs mentorship from our own community. I would really HATE for them to feel like they aren't getting anywhere or they don't have a positive influence to look at. However, being queer and lost is normal and for those reading you are not alone. Experiencing the hardships of figuring out sex, love, work, and managing personal life is a lot. Sometimes as human nature, when there is to much on our plate, we tend to throw away the remaining food even if we don't finish. We can take on all these things at once. So what I always advise anyone who is struggling with work and life balance is to first, list the things that all go into each of the subjects you are trying to manage in your life. For example, If we are working on love, work on trying to heal step by step. If we are talking about helping yourself at  work, think of the most tangible goal. Think of something that will benefit you immediately, if you worked on it. Creating these small tangible goals will ease your mind and help you work yourself up to actually being better as a person. Being "lost, lost in the heat of it all," is not to stunt your growth but to propel you into your next chapter. For all my Queer and Black readers, What are some of the things that make you feel lost? Are you lost at the moment? Would you not be as lost if you managed your life better? 

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