Queer and Missing a loved one

 Even though this blog is for Queer and Black people, everyone has someone that they have a huge heart for. Love is a universal code. Everyone has the code and they know how to hack into someone's love life. Unfortunately, just because you have the code doesn't mean you are granted access to that persons heart. You have to have the keys to a persons heart to understand their true hearts desires. Well, you don't have to have the code or the keys to know that you miss that person. Missing someone is the hardest thing to overcome. It can be from 2 min to 10 years, missing someone doesn't have a time frame. Missing a loved one comes with so many side effects like: memories, reminiscing and harboring. Memories come and go and they do fade. Memories are like the classified  documents trump allegedly took from the government. The memories are filed away and cherished from an experience you'd never thought you'd ever be in. Its great to have this experience because you will have the memories stick with you and shape you into a better person. I know it may hurt at times to remember, but its the part of missing someone that reminds you of what you had and where you can go. Reminiscing is probably one of the most loving yet horrible things anyone can go through. The pro about reminiscing is that you are able to feel, smell, hear, and visualize the nostalgic feelings that engulf your brain. The con about reminiscing is that. you can feel all those nostalgic emotions but you won't get those moments back because they already existed for you. However, just because it happened doesn't mean there won't be a new chapter to create new memories. Whether it be with the person you are missing or someone who makes you feel even better, you will be able to see that missing someone can become a distant memory. The memory that was once filed away, comes to fruition. This is the moment you know that you have come to terms with your new situationship. This is a way for you to know that you are on the right path of healing. For all of my queer and black readers, do you feel like you are missing someone? How do you deal with your current emotions? Do you handle your emotions well or do you cope differently?


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