Queer and Puting yourself first

You ever felt like there was an issue and you didn't understand why you were going through what you were going through. You ever felt like you could have done better at helping yourself? You ever felt like you were putting more energy in your relationships than yourself? You ever felt drained from working or just simply being around others you put before your own needs? Well, I am here to let you know that you are not putting yourself first in a lot of the situations I am writing about. You have to realize that you are more important than the things that you think should occupy your energy or time. These things are not important to you. You just want the other party to feel comfortable. It could be also that you are comfortable with the life that you're are living. This is not a good way to live. The way you should be living is putting yourself first. And this does not include eating 3 meals a day. Putting yourself first does not include the simple self care Sunday shit you do. Even though these are good self help remedies. Putting yourself first requires you to cancel all the outside noise. Delete social media. Block friends and people who you feel like wouldn't understand your new journey of self discovery. Blocking people may not be the answer but it helps you discover yourself more by not entertaining them and their problems. You also stop yourself for looking for validation on ideas or things you'd like to partake in. Allowing yourself to wait for someone else stops and stunts your own individual growth. You become stubborn with time and you don't take the time to truly be understand who you are. They Honestly, cutting everyone off for some time is so healthy. Explaining to them later that you are changing and putting yourself first would give them chills and you can find out if they are your true friends. You'll find out soon enough that majority of the people who would be there for you, are really not there for you. They have there own personal vended-a. Everyone one of you, heteronormativity, homo, asexual, black, white, American, non-american deserves to know what it feels like to be the number 1 person you call on. The beginning is scary, but in the end ... this all means something. This will take you far. Fo0r example, The same energy I put in these artists that Don't know me from a can of paint, I can put in myself. the same energy the gays put in porn and for views, yalll can put that to use in your personal life. For all the readers, how do you put yourself first? What are some instances its best to put you first? What are sone instances that its best tom put others first? 


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