Queer and sleeping with married people

 Theres so many things to say. So many elements that could conjure this type of situation. I also feel like there could be some clarification on this topic at hand. For starters, I usually end with a question but I'm going to start with one. Married men? How do they impact your life? Having a fare share of experiences with married men is actually normal and a lot of people don't want to accept that. Unfortunately, it's sad that some of us have to fall victim to this. As for the single people island, we are just living our lives and enjoying the freedom that comes with taking your time for love. Some men or women marry for different reasons, but at least we are still preserving ourselves even if marriage is not our end goal. However, those who are married seem to have an infatuation with the single peoples island. For those who are happily married without infidelity and trials, shoutout to you. For those who have a understanding or are going through trials and everything is evident, I salute you too. But when it comes to the partners pursuing others, please be calculated. This isn't just an adventure for the singles. They need a little bit more respect taking on your issues. Approaching someone who is not looking for what you are trying to embark on is a tricky game. Yet if the single Pringle is ready to mingle than its a success. My question is, how much are you guys willing to go through to continue to keep up your New situationship while the newly wed maintains their marriage? Do you guys meet at hotels or your homes? How far do you go into dating? Is dating even a thing? I know that there should be ground rules set for this type of relationship because it can get dangerous emotionally. If boundaries and rules are not set, things will become out off hand. Things will start to seem unreal and disassociation will start between both parties. Ive seen it countless times where people have engaged with a married man and they think, "well he's going to leave him or her" or " He said he loves me and will do anything." Always remind yourself single Pringle that you are still single Pringle. Don't become da-lu-lu thinking that you are actually someone's partner. They are taken sweets. You are literally that beautiful free and fun other woman and continue to enjoy those moments. And for the married party of the situationship, you don't own anything but the lady or gentleman who decided to take your last name and even with that you truly don't own them. You have to consider the fact that the way that you met is the way that they will always be until they decide to put on your wedding shoes and join the team. This is something fun and creative for the married party, enjoy that while it last but be real with yourself, your marriage and your single friend so that you can enjoy this time to the fullest. No one likes kept secrets or being kept a secret. Its harmful and it sucks to think you know someone and you really don't. Its like watching your baby become someone you would have never thought. It's like being lied to for years and not knowing who you are sleep with next to you. Your marriage could seem like a scam to the one who is being faithful. However, if you have an agreement with your spouse, continue to follow that agreement but also share that with the outside partner you are pursuing. They need to be just as aware of what's going on so the proper decisions can be made. So many emotional issues and pain could be avoided by being upfront. To all my queer and Black readers, what are some of the things you fear about marriage? Is an open marriage something you have considered? Would you mess with a Married partner? Have you messed with a Married partner? 

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