Queer and Toping: Pt. 2

 You are not the caretaker. You are not suppose to be the "bread winner" of the relationship. You are also not supposed to be the "man" of the relationship because there are two men present. In a gay or queer relationship that involves two men, there is suppose to be two domesticated partners who are willing to learn new things to help keep their relationship intact. Men were designed to be amazing supporters. We were created by god itself with strength, logic, emotions and courage. Queer men were designed to be as they are, men. Anything outside of being a man is a way of living or an expression. However if you are a queer trans woman or man. This does not refer to your as your a beautiful unique creation of your own. However for queer men who top, this is for you. For years, Homosexuals or queer individuals have been abiding by the social norms of heterosexuality. Meaning, homosexuals have been following the roles of heterosexual relationships to the tea. Queer men who were dating other queer men, would or will designate roles like actors. One male would or will her considered the "man' and the other the "woman". This is an outdated way of thinking due to us having the resources to change the narrative. As men, one should not have to conform to what society has said we must. They only way to create change and provoke a new way of thinking is politically rebel against what others are used to. Like our black community who successfully fought back at slavery, They fought back for what they knew was the right way they should be treated and how they should have human rights like all the other humans. Anyways, Tops should not fight back but should advocate that they are not a robot and they don't have to do anything that they don't feel comfortable with. A top doesn't have to do all the paying.  A top shouldn't have to do all the serving. Yes, treat the person you LOVE with these qualities but also remember to receive them. If you think, Majority of the heterosexual relationships in 2024 fail because women have stuck to this, "men are suppose to do everything," narrative. Men in those relationships lack the actual support from the woman they like or love. So They act out or mess around on their supposed loved one. Men that are tops who are in queer relationships, should understand that your spouse should be able to perform the same tasks as you are. And honestly, having two people whop are equally able to perform tasks is a benefit for themselves and other future investments. This is a great way to show others how diversity plays a huge role in how a queer dynamic can play a huge role in community and their home. Believing that all partners in the house whether it be platonic, poly, or monogamy, Should be able to pay the bills, do laundry, fix meals, cut the grass, take out the trash and anything else that seemed to be designated for only certain genders. Tops should be catered to too. Bottoms or those who are "bending over" or those who classify themselves that way, should support their tops the same way they are supported. For all the tops, what do you think should change with those who are bottoms? For those who are bottoms, how can you support and love a top better? For those who are reading, Tops and Bottoms, are you willing top learn new skills so that you may equally make a change in each others lives? 

xoxo