Queer and Topping

“Umm, are you clean?” “Wait, was that a fart?” “You better not.…?” Many may think that topping is a sport. Well it is. They intense motion they have to delibertaly continue throughtout the sexual expirence seems to be inate but exhausting. Of course in the moment, they don‘t think about it when they are performing, but there has to be this underlying feeling of fear that your mid day lunch will reveal itself. This isn‘t way to deminish any role playing that happens in queer sex, all opinions and all sexual roles are valid. This is justbto acknowledge the taboo conversation amongst tops and their feelings. Because believe it or not tops have feelings too. Through history, dominance has been viewed as aggresive and some what a “over bearing” persona or additude. So due to society defining dominance with these vague descriptions, many tops (who are categorized as dominant) may lack empathy from those they come into contact with as partners or more complex relationships. For the focus to take care of the bottom is true! but In their presence there should be a more easier and comfortable quality of touch! Not saying one should just drop everything to please but there is power in creating and exprience where both parties can benefit. The experience should be recipricale on both parties, regardless of roles and what we want to define ourselves as. Love, the frequencey, has no definition. One may adapt to whatever mold that their love shapes them. Partners should equally support each others hygiene. Anyone in a Relationship that cosumes of roles must play their role in how they support one another. If you think a queer top is suppose to be the knly supportive individaul , good luck with that! Find comfort in knowing that the only way we will be able to support Queer tops is to give them the same respect. My queer black tops, what are Your fears about anal? What makes sex uncomfortable for you? What can bottoms do to make a better experimece for you?