Queer and Waiting for love: Part 5

He saw a nice watch and an adorable minature poodle and couldn’t help but to swipe right! Five days had passed since he filered out his lucky picks from his notorious dating app. On Saturday morning, he recieved a text asking him Out for a drink. 3 weeks After, their call log consists of their hour long phone calls with some declined bill collectors. Talking on the phone and getting to know each other turned into an exciting outting every saturday. They are both becoming involved in one anothers pandoras boxes. Things start to boil as the interests start to sway the waters. One person starts to wonder how deep does this water go and will we drown together? Once your in that big large body of emotional water, you never know how long you are going to be there or how long its going to take For you to escape. Being in a relationship is one thing but being in a situationship is another. Everyone has different situationships, but we all know they leave an emotional flooding of waters in your beloved home; your heart. Being honest with someone about your intentions are the Start to any healthy relationship. Whatever continues to keep the relation on the ship afloat, that is whats going to work, but you have to be straight foward. Leading someone down a path is not how courtship or serial dating should happen. Establish what you are doing right now. If you are just friends, thats what should and aspire to be. Don’t lead them into false intentions by pursuing them with attributes of dating. Hell even if its just what yall are ok with doing, whatever it is. Just dont switch up on someone just because you felt like it was ok for you to move on in your life. You owe It to them to communicate and show your true self. Those fake narratives that have missing words and sentences don‘t Read to well. So if both parties don‘t Communicate some are bound to get hurt. Noticing that people are becoming More victim to the Absent pursuit of love. People wanting this thing called a relationship but dont truly use there actions to keep and continously pursue them the same as when you met them. And when i say relationship any type whether it Be virtual to physical, anything in between. The reason why its failing for most of us queer black individuals is because we are not being true to what we want. If we were more true to our desires, we‘d possibly be more open to communicate amongst thoss we consider our partners or expirences so that we can all know whats going on and how to pursue our purpose. Its time to be fuckin foreal lmao. To all my queer how do plan on being fuckin foreal? Do you practice on being foreal? Do you think allowing someone to send these mix signals is the issue to, if so how? Should the reciever of the mixed signals be more verbal? Do you think both parties send mixed signals?


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