Queer / Black American and Defining it for yourself...

I think every human wants to be apart. There is this urge and feeling to want to be included. Everyone has went through  a stage in their life where they wanted the outside world to hold them like their parents did. Everyone has opened their phone to find something that will make them feel like they aren't alone going through a situation. It is human nature to search for something that will make you feel understood, especially when you are adulting alone. It gets hard and sometimes friends and family aren't the voices that can conjure up a reason as to why these things are happening. People always question whether god is picking them to go through a situation by themselves or is everyone experienced this. Sometimes...actually most times, its best to go through your situations alone. This is the best way to be. The reason why I say this is because I have looked for others to make me feel comfortable in my situation and It has never worked. Its like finding a place holder but it will always come back to haunt you until you actually fix it. Until you fix and heal your own heart because no one will be able to do this. You going through these situations are not just for you to go through. You are unique, God said that we are all individuals and have unique journeys. Your journey is unique. God will never provide anything you can't handle. This independent personal journey that you are on, is suppose to be able to help you define your own life. Not defining your life by what others have been through, but creating a definition for your unique journey. This is a part of the healing process a lot of people don't understand. This is a part of the healing process that allows you to be more of an advocate for queer and black individuals. We've been given definitions for centuries. They have named us "Niggers" , "Niggas", "Fags", "Faggots" and etc. It's time to stand up and show our true colors of independency. To all my queer and Black readers, How do you plan on defining yourself outside of social norms? 

xoxoxo 

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