Queer and In The Pursuit of Happiness

 Who are you doing it for? Are you doing this for for your own sanity? Do you think the steps you are taking are going to be the right ones to put you in the place you have always dreamed of? You ever felt like you were focusing on things that were not good for your success? Its so easy to get distracted by your past or present addictions. Sometimes as a queer community we can be addicted to finding love or staying in the status quo. I personally think that people can be so blinded by love that they forget the goal. Even befriending people. The goal is to be successful. The goal isn't to mingle on your free time. Having fun is ok and making sure that the fun only lasts for a short amount of time is even better., Don't let fun or love distract you from your end goal. Love is a great thing but loving yourself is way better and if it means ti just stay to yourself. Even I am practicing abstinence and being alone more. I am also practicing not talking and working on my attitude towards people. This is the true form of self resilience and love. Saving yourself from destruction. Preventing from stopping yourself from reaching your end goals.  In this time of self love, tunnel vision is the only thing one must see. I suggest creating a list. it's so many goals that are being set for your future and the one thing that can hold you back is a traumatic past or handcuffs taking away the things that will make you a better. Don't loose everything you have created and made for yourself to something so wavering. Your future is way more important as a queer black American minority than emotions. Controlling your emotions are a better way to deflect from destroying yourself and putting yourself in a place you would have to build all over again. Ice Spice herself stated that some people "loose the plot". I and anyone who is reading this should not loose the plot. I encourage anyone who is reading this to keep going.  I went through to much to loose anything for friends or negative thoughts. "Trauma is the ultimate killer". Please just be safe with yourself. Please just believe in yourself. Please I beg anyone who is reaching, don't stop reaching because one day you may actually grab what you are looking for. So make Sure you are doing this for you. Make sure your are doing it for your won sanity. Make sure the steps you are taking are going to be the right ones to put you in the place you have always dreamed of. <3

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