Queer and Recognizing what one will and Will not tolerate

 I think the key thing to anyones success is a healthy balanced life. Apart of a well balanced life comes with strong boundaries. The boundaries that we embody and create for others and situations can help one keep a clear focus on their goals. As people we have the authority to set boundaries to show other what and what one will not tolerate. I feel like a lot of people, not just queer, have this feeling that they need to give and not receive or give and not look to receive. There are some that receive and don't look to give as well. But for one to have a healthy give and take situation, one must understand that you have to set the boundaries. I also feel like in any relationship queer individuals have a hard time understanding tolerance and when one isn't tolerant. All queer/lesbian/gay individuals have experienced where heterosexuals tend to tolerate us yet we accept them with open arms. Now this isn't for all hetero people. Many do accept us, however for those who just tolerate....you know who you really are. From my experience, heteros are very closed minded when it comes to a lot of social ideals or norms that don't fall under the hetero stigma/ standard  of what is considered being "good". Judgment arises when the individual who conforms to the hetero normative and think or assumes that the world itself works the same as ones theory. There isn't true identity. I found that in human experience alot of us do not want to be alone in a world so dangerous. But the point of the human experience is to be alone and only ask for help when you need it. I choose to tap into my aura and be alone. I choose when I want to be bothered. I don't look for outside approval; from no one anymore. Not even my own mother. I love her to death and yes her opinion matters, bit at the end of the day I have to make decisions on my own.  If a man is still relying on his family to make decisions and support his journey he will forever be a boy. This doesn't mean rush the process. What this means is for one to always question a life outside of what you see. Now don't take what you see for granted. Allow what you can control to not be affected by your present circumstances. Be more present than focused on your future. Focus on your future at like increments in a day, but absorb all the present feelings and allow all the blessings to flow. Being queer and black has so many ivtersectionalities. It offers so many variations of circumstances, backgrounds, morality, values and much more. For all the queer and black Americans reading this, what are some of the things you and your self will and won't tolerate? Have you set complete boundaries for those? 

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