Queer Writers Block

 It's just not a good fit. It doesn't work for intersectional people. I also feel like it only works if you have genuine support from your culture and the community around you. America makes me sick to my stomach as a queer black man and here is the reason why. America has baited its citizens in believing in this capitalistic / celebrity mindset. People think it's ok to just get your body done, scam and influence others. America is glamorized garbage. The same way the garbage looks on the street in New York. New York is such a well populated and expensive state to live in, yet you put your garbage bags on the street...defines America perfectly. The focus in America is to put up a front for other countries to think we are doing good but this country is suffering. America has lost the plot and that's why continents Like Africa and Asia, have took over the global economy. America has its nose in places that it shouldn't be. Instead of  America working on itself, Americ...

Watching porn is like having enough time to change your life. The moments one may spend watching porn, is the same time one could be working on themselves, finances, or their relationships. A lot of porn watchers tend to also have less interactions with the outside world. In the queer community, porn has become the staple of pleasure. Even when I'm performing acts of intercourse, a lot of queer men either cum fast or can't cum at all. There's nothing wrong with someone who is sensitive to sex, however when you are sexually active consistently, one should not be orgasming so quick or not at all! Has any other Queer individual experienced this? Or this false sex narratives that everyone is able to take 11 inches of dick!? Let me let you in on a little secret. Those porn stars who take the best dick or who eat the wildest pussy, are on heavy drugs. People may think, "Oh alcohol or weed"... no. These pornstars are on Tina aka meth and Chloe aka coke. They are using th...

 Voting has been a huge part of our life. Especially those are born Gen-Z, like me. I personally have had issues figuring out the importance of voting until I reached an age where it started to matter. Being apart of the next phase of change in America, is a lot of weight to bare on ones shoulders. There are so many things that are obvious that could change, yet our political leaders tend to overlook those issues. Some of the issues that I feel like need to be talked about are: Trans protection, global warming and student loans. In the queer community. I see a lot of the trans community being overlooked again. In the early 2010's trans people were not spoke about at all. The focus was making sure that gay couples all over America could get married. After that success, transphobia made its way to light. There were talks of creating non-gender bathrooms for restaurants and other retail stores. However, there were so much backlash. Some of the things people were concerned about were t...

 We are all aging and wish we could hit the hot tub time machine. It's just like the movie except not as exciting. One day your in the club and you start to realize that the person you used to be isn't you anymore. This means that you have reached the highest point of maturity at the age you are. The person that you are becoming is seeing that things are different and changing. For example, You are at the club again, and your in the mist of a crowd who is literally 5-6 years younger than you. They start to speak on how they are born in the year 2004 and the older girls are from the 90's. "Your friends get this sense of being old, but you don't feel a thing. Once you start to see the demographic of people you are surrounded by you have no other choice but to accept the facts. You are older and you are seasoned but you are not old. Old to me is when one gives up on trying to learn new skills and etc. When one gives up the willingness to learn, they give up the passio...

 When people go through things, its hard to face the reality at times. Usually people tend to runaway from the issue before tackling it head on. Some people create different masks to protect themselves so that they won't seem to be going through any issues. Many people start to idolize certain humans and try to create themselves in their light. They try to become someone else. I know you are thinking, how do you become someone else? How can you be someone when you are already who you are? Well, its simple. Ego death. Many times when Humans are faced with issues there ego and pride are challenged by their new trial. The new trial may make someone feel like they are not worthy or ready to take on this issue. So, instead of being vulnerable and asking for guidance, they create their own guidance. As a queer community, I have seen where we tend to be a character or someone that seems false. These characters remind of the celebrities like Beyonce or Kim Kardashian who build this social ...

 The feeling that you are not getting enough done for yourself. The feeling that you are wasting your time. The feeling that you could be doing something better than sitting in an office for 8 hours and loosing 14 hours of your day. The feeling that you are not fulfilling your dreams. The feeling to stop complaining about your work life. The feeling of letting go what does not serve you mentally, physically or emotionally. These are all signs of being lost at the moment. I don't mean being lost in a forest or lost at the mall, this type of lost is very detrimental. The decisions you make in your life at this point really make a difference in how your life will go. I too am trying to make the right decisions. As a Queer community, we do not have true representations of idols or people we can look for as inspiration. Unfortunately, I have yet to seek and find someone who can actually be a mentor in my life. So, I guess I will take a little bit of the responsibility to help my fellow ...

Humans have powers. I am not talking about the powers that are dramatized by your favorite superhero. Superhero's were made to help humans escape their daily lives, and believe in something outside of what was perspiring in their personal life. Even though the superhero's we see in comics are fictional, there is a metaphor to the creation of superhero's. Every single person was designed with a specific skill set. This skill set is unique to your own individuality. For some it may be sewing for others, it may be the gift of gab. Anyways, Queer individuals have super powers and I am here today to help you realize your strength. In the queer community, we are able to adapt so well to life and the changes of life. I personally think that we are so adaptable due to the past trauma of others taking away our human rights to love and appreciation who we want and when we want. So for those who are aware of oppression, one would understand how our queer community overcame the oppress...

You ever felt like there was an issue and you didn't understand why you were going through what you were going through. You ever felt like you could have done better at helping yourself? You ever felt like you were putting more energy in your relationships than yourself? You ever felt drained from working or just simply being around others you put before your own needs? Well, I am here to let you know that you are not putting yourself first in a lot of the situations I am writing about. You have to realize that you are more important than the things that you think should occupy your energy or time. These things are not important to you. You just want the other party to feel comfortable. It could be also that you are comfortable with the life that you're are living. This is not a good way to live. The way you should be living is putting yourself first. And this does not include eating 3 meals a day. Putting yourself first does not include the simple self care Sunday shit you do....

 There has always been this debate whether people were born queer or raised queer. Now I will say that this is not to offend anyone who is trying to work through traumas that are related to being queer. This is only to assist, heal and create open dialogue about what your twitter advocates seem to ignore. In the queer community, one of the questions that is always posed is "Were they born like this or were they touched?" I believe this to be a very open and honest question. People may think otherwise. However, I pose this question too. It means a lot to me when someone asks, because they can truly understand the person and their persona. The way that people ask may be the problem or the timing may also be the problem. Neither here nor there, For those who are queer and have had individual who have raised you into queer hood, there needs to be an understanding of how you became queer. Some people seem to judge the parents. It difficult for two opposite sex parents to accept th...

I think every human wants to be apart. There is this urge and feeling to want to be included. Everyone has went through  a stage in their life where they wanted the outside world to hold them like their parents did. Everyone has opened their phone to find something that will make them feel like they aren't alone going through a situation. It is human nature to search for something that will make you feel understood, especially when you are adulting alone. It gets hard and sometimes friends and family aren't the voices that can conjure up a reason as to why these things are happening. People always question whether god is picking them to go through a situation by themselves or is everyone experienced this. Sometimes...actually most times, its best to go through your situations alone. This is the best way to be. The reason why I say this is because I have looked for others to make me feel comfortable in my situation and It has never worked. Its like finding a place holder but it ...

You don't have to rush. Please take your time. You are only in a race with yourself. No one else matters. This journey is for you and no one can take away what's waiting for you in the long run. This is your time to understand why your heart and mind made the decisions they made. This a great time to heal your mental health while your making sure your physical health also aligns. They say the best way to get over someone is to get underneath someone...That's a lie. If you're sleeping around with others and not healing properly from your last situationship, you're just harboring souls and bodies. Your literally a succubus, collecting many pieces of the people you've only known for 5- 10 min. Coming out of something short or long term deserves your undivided attention. Learning that your heart and mind aren't ready for a new love journey should mean more than finding a significant other to move on from your past. Deciphering between the decisions, the memories...

 Even though this blog is for Queer and Black people, everyone has someone that they have a huge heart for. Love is a universal code. Everyone has the code and they know how to hack into someone's love life. Unfortunately, just because you have the code doesn't mean you are granted access to that persons heart. You have to have the keys to a persons heart to understand their true hearts desires. Well, you don't have to have the code or the keys to know that you miss that person. Missing someone is the hardest thing to overcome. It can be from 2 min to 10 years, missing someone doesn't have a time frame. Missing a loved one comes with so many side effects like: memories, reminiscing and harboring. Memories come and go and they do fade. Memories are like the classified  documents trump allegedly took from the government. The memories are filed away and cherished from an experience you'd never thought you'd ever be in. Its great to have this experience because you ...

 The urges you get when you want to go back to what makes you feel good. Its the thoughts that run through your head when you are just sitting in your room and you get the sudden chill that runs through your body. The feeling that you want to act on the urge to have the most passionate sex with the person that makes you feel complete mentally and physically. But you either cant get to them right then or you are in a space where you guys aren't where you used to be. The most interesting part about this is that when you receive these urges do you not feel yourself freeze mentally? Can You see yourself performing the actions? Doesn't the thoughts feel real? Do you feel your limbs tingle the same as you would if you were in person? Its such a crappy yet euphoric feeling. The need to be with this person is always temporary. You don't just get the feeling of sex but you also get the feeling of what your old relationship was like. It feels like you are smelling the kitchen at your...

 Being queer and in a relationship seems like it's a rare sight. It's actually like its going extinct. Seeing a queer relationship is like seeing an endangered animal in the wild. Seeing a queer relationship is like you having a chance at finding a Sabor-toothed cat. However, seeing a queer and single person is so common. Going to queer events, you have all these single people stuck to their friends and not actually experiencing life. Or you have the ones who are unhappy in their relationships looking for a single baddie to conquer. I'm not to fond of the ones who have relationships and think that I'm an opportunity. I cut them off at their first attempt. I recently had someone try to enter my life again while he was informing me of his engagement. Long story short, I blocked him. I'll never take you serious or entertain anything or anyone who participates in these shenanigans. Anyways, Being single Pringle in the Queer capital of America is such uninteresting vibe....

 Theres so many things to say. So many elements that could conjure this type of situation. I also feel like there could be some clarification on this topic at hand. For starters, I usually end with a question but I'm going to start with one. Married men? How do they impact your life? Having a fare share of experiences with married men is actually normal and a lot of people don't want to accept that. Unfortunately, it's sad that some of us have to fall victim to this. As for the single people island, we are just living our lives and enjoying the freedom that comes with taking your time for love. Some men or women marry for different reasons, but at least we are still preserving ourselves even if marriage is not our end goal. However, those who are married seem to have an infatuation with the single peoples island. For those who are happily married without infidelity and trials, shoutout to you. For those who have a understanding or are going through trials and everything is ...

You ever looked at everyone else abd thought What could be there issue. Like, why are they so moody all the time or why do they do the actions they do. Thats such a place of judgemnet and ridicule. In reality, you have the issues. Over human history, our species has become very proned to taking our shoes off and not trying to wear someone elses. I know you are probably thinking that you don’t Want to wear someone elses smelly or used shoes. However, metaphorically speaking thats the only way of truly putting yourself in anyones situation. Putting on their shoes will allow you to walk the path they chose. You want understand why they did what they did, however its always geeat insight on why not to judge a person. as a community, Queer and black individuals have been judged and ridiculed for years just because of the way they look, express love , or how they maintain their community. People have judged so much that they have forgot the impact it has on others. It's not a healthy way...

 The world is such a huge place. So many people. So many issues and so many lives to take care of. That's not your responsibility. That's gods issues. If you are queer and going through anything right now. Thank god for it. They You are becoming experienced with people and dealing with people. However,  I want you to stay focused. People will distract you from your external and internal purpose. Focusing on heterosexual normatives,  and seeking love is the worst route to take.If you take that route you will end up digging a hole that's hard to come out of. Studies show that sexuality and sex start to contribute toward a persons life starting at the early teen stage. The stage they are referencing is the stage where your hormones start ton kick in. They are talking about when you aren't even horny, yet you find yourself moist or hard for simply looking up. What studies don't tell you is, thats a great time for young queer and black Americans to build their focus and ...

 You have your Hitchhiker and your Mclovers. I know you are reading my first statement like, "whaaa." Well I am here to tell you that the fear of commitment is real and There are different forms. Today, I am sharing the different forms of commitment and how they play a role in why some people can never have a successful relationship. Having the fear of commitment, not only affects the way you help others or a job but it also affects your relationships around you. The fear of commitment can affect platonic relationships and monogamist relationships. You ever saw someone standing on the side of the rode and all they needed was a ride from point A to point B? The hitchhiker has the fear of commitment too.A hitchhiker tend to have a more free spirit and Lack of attachments. In a relationship a Hitchhiker lacks the will and want to be  in a relationship. They only care about having a free ride. If you have a house and home, they are going to your new couch potato or free loader. T...

For years we have been shunned and banned from going to places That are consumed with inindividuals who classify themselves as the majority race. Our ancestors and those before us, fought to have equal rights which I personally am so thankful for. However, I realised That fighting For that type of equality is outdatted. We as Queer or black americans, should not be begging to be apart of communities who don‘t affiliate with us. Also, the fake friendships and just being a Leech because their lives are miserable needs to stop. We don’t owe or have to present ourselves to these people in anyway. I do believe that they only allow equality for the benefit of themselves. They truly could care less aboyt queer or black peoples well being. It’s time for us as Queer / black americans to create our own spaces. Tony morrison, was a civil rights activist. Even when faced with racism and backlash Tony morrison always found a space where she could be free. Toni morrison found a lake behind her hous...

 Every single one of you queer people are vers. I bet it gets so boring trying to stick to one agenda. I bet it gets tiring being a robot. I Know you in the mist of your robotic relationship your desires and wants change. As a fellow member of the queer community, I have changed myself. What you think you liked no longer serves you. You are a tree, you will forever change. Trees don't keep their leaves forever. You are aloud to shed what you used to know and become what you are now. Imagine someone being a robot as a human. As we all know robots need strategic programming to follow through and complete tasks. Humans were nt created by god to complete specific tasks. We were created to perform and be multifaceted. If you are still stuck in being a "Bottom" to "top", I think it's time for you to get over yourself. I think to like men is to like men. Now I do believe that what you like is what you like. However, please do not limit yourself to just talking or r...

 You are not the caretaker. You are not suppose to be the "bread winner" of the relationship. You are also not supposed to be the "man" of the relationship because there are two men present. In a gay or queer relationship that involves two men, there is suppose to be two domesticated partners who are willing to learn new things to help keep their relationship intact. Men were designed to be amazing supporters. We were created by god itself with strength, logic, emotions and courage. Queer men were designed to be as they are, men. Anything outside of being a man is a way of living or an expression. However if you are a queer trans woman or man. This does not refer to your as your a beautiful unique creation of your own. However for queer men who top, this is for you. For years, Homosexuals or queer individuals have been abiding by the social norms of heterosexuality. Meaning, homosexuals have been following the roles of heterosexual relationships to the tea. Queer me...

     Playing the fence when you are a friend is a scary way to end a good relationship. Dangling yourself along the edge can cause a lot of issues for the friendship itself. Friends with benefits sends a message that you are more free than one probably perceives. The lack of boundaries one sets in a relationship that doesn't hold any meaning will always have a somber ending. Imagine the alien invasion. When they come to invade the earth, they tend to invade our personal space. The invasion impacts the relationship because its the lack of boundaries they had before coming to our planet. They set the tone. In a  friendship where you are partaking in having sex is opening doors in y'all's relationship. Is that the benefit? Not knowing what door your going to walk through emotionally? Everyone has done it. Thinking it would be better off just being friends and have sex but its still leaving a void in you. A feeling of emptiness. But I get it. The fear of ,waiting or seek...

     You remember when you were just a little seed. LMAO, you probably don't. I don't either. Anyways, you were planted by your mother and father. Even if you were planted by mistake or on purpose, they tilled the soil and watered you until you sprouted. When you were a little sprout, everyone took turns feeding loving and catering to your every need. Even though you were supervised,  you still were apart of the world. They could not protect you always. So of course you go through life facing the storms and tribulations. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? So, you begin to grow into the tree you were always meant to be. Everyone thinks they are grown at some point but in actuality, there isn't a true stunt in growth. Even the oldest trees still have to go through the seasons. Even the oldest trees shed their leaves in the fall and grow them back in the spring. Learning that you are forever going to be growing no matter the class, race and situation. ...

 The aspects of having a dominant masculine man have been misconstrued as an abusive man. There is a sad underlining stance with being abused and it equalling out to man loving you and that's not the reality. A man will always have the masculinity and dominance varies amongst the person. For women or men to judge their same sex partner based off if they are to feminine or to masculine is very unrealistic. Idealy you want to be able to have someone who is full of duality. What I mean by duality is that that is an equal split between the masculine and feminine energy. Everyone on earth has this within them, it just has be unlocked or used in ways that aren't accounted for. To have a feminine man or a man that understands the feminine aspect is a plus. As we all know for centuries they have been telling men that they are suppose to be this overly dominant personality. They want us to believe that men are only suppose to be providers and not supporters. They think they don't ha...

Atlanta has been rewarded for its musical presence. Atlanta is known for Outkast, Freakniq and the land of the make believe. Living in atlanta, one may find that its a place where the cost of living is cheap but it costs to live in atlanta. And when I say it costs, I don't just mean money. Being Queer and living in atlanta is one of the most disappointing yet educational experiences that a queer individual can have. Atlanta is also very diverse when it comes to the queer community. Atlanta is the queer umbrella. you have your gays, lesbians, trans and others. The Atlanta queer community in 2024 has evolved and grown since the early 2000's. Atlanta was not how it is today. Being gay as a queer and black male living in Georgia was scary in the early 2000's. If you weren't DL you were not accepted by the heterosexual individuals. People were protecting themselves to heterosexual normative so that they wouldn't be bullied or mistreated. Hate crimes were very heavy in th...

 "Your my little secret and that's how we should keep it?", were lyrics sung by a super talented and famous girl group. I'm sure because of their lifestyle, this song possibly immolated what they had to do to protect their stardom. Xscape was their name. In the queer community, we see a lot of people who are trying to escape their reality by labeling themselves as "DL". DL is an acronym for "Down low". Down low is suppose to signify that an individual has not had the courage or the space to come out to someone the most important people in their life. They either can't find the strength or they are too focused on what others think about them. I have seen this in the gay community where men are trying to uphold the prehistoric definition of what a man is suppose to be. I have seen it in the lesbian community where some women aren't comfortable allowing the world to know that someone is munching on her carpet or her being the carpet muncher. E...

 Class is in session and your classmates are all chatting it up! You are observing everything but you can not help but see that you are totally different from the rest. You aren't aware of what it could be but Its something that has to do with being misunderstood. There is a misunderstanding about individuals who label themselves as queer. It's not that people need you to be their teacher, its kind of like they want you to be their tour guide. And lets get this straight now. You don't have to give them a detail tour of your entire life. Don't start showing them how anal works or what you use to clean. Don't go out your way to show them the apps and how we communicate. A simple tour is complete of the tourist attractions. Take them to the gay bar. The gay bar is like the field trip to heaven. Anyone who misunderstood who you are will never have that issue again. At the gay bar, people are exposed to all types of LGBTQI+ individuals. Also, inform them not to ask to ma...

 The television has shown and screened sex scenes for adults since the man found out that a woman was way more valuable on screen with her shirt off. Everyone is accustomed to seeing heterosexual people performing acts of sex, love, relationships and support. For those who are queer, We have been programmed to think that we are suppose to abide by what society defines relationships to be: The heterosexual norm. For those who are confused, heteronormativity is the belief that there are only two opposite genders and that marital relations are most fitting to the opposite sex. As queer, we have not been shown anything that is related to the homosexual experience when it comes to marriage, love, relationship, hell even friendships. As a queer community, we must take a deep dive into what defines us and how do we govern our own relationships. Have we ever considered thinking outside of the box and figuring it out for ourselves. To believe that two men can immulate a heterosexual male an...

The feelings of dealing with people and their issues, I find to be not my peragative. people concentrate on the wrong things such as how someone else is feeling or what they are feeling. Understanding that communication is the only way to fix something, but have you ever noticed that the ones asking you are you ok never have a real solution? I mean if you cared god would have provided you with some type of solution or a plan to help the one your asking. However, people still have this urge to not mind their business. Being queer and introvert, it’s hard to want to mingle with others Especially if they are not apart of our community. Being queer is already complex within itself. So to act as if we are even equal or on the same playing field is arbitrary. Being a queer and introverted individual makes people feel a certain way. They have this concept of homosexuals being kind and friendly. There is this concept that we are the happiest people and we like everyone. Wrong! I dislike everyo...

 Scrolling and mentally filtering out all the ones you think are bad or not the one. But how would you know that if you're literally just sitting around and playing on your phone. Do you really think your going to meet the one on a dating dating app? Like be fucking for real. As we all know the internet is a social construct. Its a fast paced non realistic world where information is processed almost as fast as the speed of light. People have entrusted their lives in the electronic data era. Well I'm here to let you know that, That is not a tangible way to acquire love in your life. As people, we have been told to wait for love and not to seek love. This is true, we should not go out our way to find someone to love. You'll never truly get what you desire because you'll eventually settle. But waiting for love also doesn't mean literally avoiding being around people. get the fuck out of your bed and something that will make you feel great and complete. If you are a rea...

You got friends and I know you got hell of friends too. So many people in your life and sometimes it's hard to keep up with everyone. But it never fails in America for colorism to come up in the most uncomfortable  ways. People in America have been systematically programmed to believe everything they see as a marketing scheme whether it be television or a magazine. America has created this colorist idealist martyr. Imagine having a darker skinned friend who is the sweetest person in the world, Yet the world views her as this aggressive and mean individual based off the color of her skin. Imagine having a lighter skinned friend and she still deals with the issues of the world, but always being told that you never truly experience the back experience. As a community of black Americans, we have to stop trying to compare those in our community to one another. Colorism is a one of the systems that were created to continue to divide us. As a community, if we are still participating in th...

 You ever had someone introduce you to their child and you weren't ready? You ever knew it was time for you to leave and you were still sitting on the bed waiting on god to tell you to get up? However, you sit there because you don't want to look awkward or abruptly leave. Being so nervous because you want to be a good example and be appropriate for the meet and greet. Nobody wants to smell like weed or alcohol meeting the innocence. After you meet the sweet child, you start to question yourself and what you present to those who are blind to the world. The questions that nay come up are, "Are you ready for kids?" "Do you know what true sacrifice it takes to be a parent?" or "If you wanted kids, are you prepared to take care of someone other than yourself?" Being queer black male and desiring kids come with so much background noise and opinions. The fear of having children and them struggling in school with having two loving parents at home that are...

  You ever been in a space in your life where you are just tired of yourself self-sabotaging your own life? The feelings of not getting it right or knowing that the game you’ve been playing no longer satisfies your hunger for growth. If you’ve experienced or are experiencing this, you are not alone. As a Queer and Black male, I find that it’s easier to be persuaded or succumb to what social feels comfortable or what tolerates you in their spaces. You don’t have to settle for things because you are greater than what they define you as. However, for those who do fall into these non-identifiable and prehistoric definitions find themselves not living in their truth. When you don’t follow your path or your truth, you start to find yourself in a place where you don’t feel like you’re fulfilling your true-life purpose. You’ve entered the cycle of comfort. This seems convenient until you notice that you are not actually completing the eternal work that was predestined for you. You are now ...